Updated on December 12, 2017
Isn’t it quite interesting how experiences can shape your life in the future? Although I know we cannot rewind the hands of time, I do wish I knew a few things that I know now, back when I was younger. Especially since in my opinion most Haitian parents, well at least mine were mostly concerned about providing a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and food in my belly. There are very few Haitian parents I’ve met that are concerned with the emotional aspect of their children. Therefore, if I could write to my younger teenaged self, I would tell her this:
Dear Beautiful Young Lady,
I know it seems like tomorrow or the future is soo far away but in actuality it is not. What you do today will definitely impact what tomorrow will look like. So tune into the media less and do not allow them to impose on you their standards of beauty. Instead hone in on your talent and creative skills. You are beautiful, dark skin and all. You will learn to love the natural you minus the relaxer, honey brown contact lenses, and acrylic nails. You are naturally beautiful.
Stop looking to other people to validate who you are. You are valid. Your hopes, dreams, and aspirations are all valid. So believe in yourself because at the end of the day you are you self’s number one fan.
Get in tune with yourself and listen to your inner voice, it will not steer you wrong. If your gut tells you not to do something. Do not do it. This will save you from any future regret. Do not be naive. If someone tells you something that seems off, trust your intuition. On the other hand if someone tells you something about their self more than likely they are being transparent.
If you don’t like or want to do something, it is perfectly ok to say no. You are not obligated to do anything that is not in line with who you truly feel you are. Besides, doing stuff for others all the time while neglecting your own desires does not mean they will return the favor. Often times than not, they won’t. Remember everyone is not truly your friend. Some people will use you because it is convenient.
Live by your future college motto “Find a way or make one.” Take chances in this life. It is ok to “fail.” The issue lies in giving up. When things do not go your way try, try, try, and try again until you succeed. Each mistake in life is really an opportunity to learn.
Life is not easy but trust in yourself to navigate through this journey. Live in the present and cherish every single moment. For once that moment is gone, it is gone forever.
Remember you only have one life so live it Be-U-tifully, by being you to the fullest 🙂
Peace & Love,
Yes Her Esther J (The future you)